It comes with the good the bad and the ugly. The reason why people go through so many trials and tribulations with their spouse and call it love is because they ultimately don't know what love means and entails. Granted love is one emotion, but because love is used interchangeably there needs be be a clear understanding of the type of love you have for someone and the love they have for you.
You have 3 ways to describe love;
LOVE FOR YOU
Now although they may seem like they are the same, they all differ in definition, opinion and explanation.
IN LOVE- the unconditional, unexplainable feeling that you feel for someone that has no boundaries or faults. You accept everything about them, the good, bad and ugly, yet you still see them as perfectly imperfect. This love is unconditional affection and elimination of doubts and limits.
LOVE FOR YOU- Having love for someone is strictly what it sounds like. Usually this term is used to describe friends and family. Don't confuse this with those definitions above. This terminology simply means that I care about you as a person, I have respect for you and how you feel, I'll even shed a tear for you if you leave this earth, and if you need me I got you. Not to say this person does not want to be in a relationship, but its strictly platonic at this point.
Now, that you have a clearer understanding of the terms, I want you to understand how to interpret these terms. When you are dealing with someone and your 'LOVE FOR THEM' starts to feel like LOVE, (it happens, your human) then you need to communicate with your partner and give them a clearer understanding of how you feel and your philosophy of love.
90% of relationships don't last because of the lack of communication and the misunderstanding of feelings. You might be in love, but this person might only love you. You might just have love for a person who is completely in love with you. There are so many discrepancies when pertaining to love, relationships and feelings. In order to maintain a healthy relationship with the possibility of being in love, make sure both parties are on the same page in regards to feelings because a miscommunication error in feelings will lead to the end of your relationship.
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