It's always a reason or a justification for something that we all have as humans. we tend to do it unconsciously then deny it consciously. As humans we often rebel at some else's opinion or judgement, and that's normal but in order to get the communication barrier clear you need to establish respect and respect your partners point of view, perspective, suggestions and opinions.
Just because your mad or upset does not mean it's ok to tell that man "he isn't anything" "dead beat" he's broke" or anything else of condescending negative meaning. If you feel so strongly about your statements, why are you dealing with him in the first place. No man wants to hear that. Second of all, that is not what you as his woman is there to do. You are there to be your man's peace, not his hell. You are to uplift your man and never put him down even when he's down. He is supposed to be able to come to you for support, a rock, a shoulder and a ear, PERIOD!!!
Males, Males, Gentlemen
Speak to her like you would want someone to speak to your mom, sister, daughter, grandmother or any woman that you would respect. If you have to call her out her name and disrespect her, then obviously she is not worthy of your respect which means you need to chuck the deuces
No one should ever take you out of your character that far to the point that you have to use vulgar, obscene, offensive and more importantly hurtful language and terms to the one you claim to love. NOOOO it don't work like that and if you think that is love, your lost babycakes, and I want you to get found. Any woman that thinks it's OK to make you feel less of a man no matter what point your at in your life, ima need you to step back a reevaluate your definition of a Queen my young man and get back to me.
Another problem so many couples are content with is the "sorry" factor. If you say hurtful things, your intentions weren't sorry. You might be sorry but your intentions weren't. Sorry to burst your bubble. You say things because you want, because they are the first thing that come to your mind, you know why, because that's how you felt, point blank. There are 3 people who tell the truth; KIDS, DRUNKS, and people who are MAD!!!
You are not to put down your partner and constantly remind them of what they don't have and haven't done. Part of being someone's partner is uplifting them and encouraging them to do better and be better. Sure, your going to get mad and disappointed at times but you need to acknowledge positive contribution and work on fixing the negative. Always let your partner know "I GOT YOU" period. Ride it out until the wheels fall off.
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