Determine which one you're really feeling!
So what's love?
an intense feeling of deep affection ,a profoundly tender passionate affection for another person
So what's lust?
very strong sexual desire, illicit sexual desire or appetite in a sexual way
Many of the young whipper snappers get love and lust confused interchangeably. See what it is is that people love ideas about life, ideas about love and content with that specific picture painted in there head. Meaning one can express the other but have two very very distinct and different meanings. The kids want this so much, after all they have been conditioned to the fairy tale life that love can bring, from what they've seen on TV. In most cases our youth gets caught up in trying to achieve love but haven't grasped a understanding of how love works. They get so caught up in possibilities and the rewards that come with love and lose their self trying to find, interpret, understand or explain love. They put their life's focus on a journey or quest to find love, without really knowing themselves.
When I say interchangeably I mean exactly what it means. For instance, your partner----You love them and you lust for them. You have that deep passionate affection and love for them as well as the physical sexual chemistry and sexual desire for your partner. But for lust, your partner----sex on a million, sexual chemistry is there, and that desire for that physical contact is enormous, but that intense affection isn't. But the affection and deep passion and desire for the lust is and that my readers is how the two get used interchangeably and get love and lust confused.
Young in fact any love is possible. You have to just be able to identify whether it is indeed lust or love. Love is more than just hugging and kissing and being lovey dovey. It takes time, hard work and commitment if you really want your love with someone to grow. Practice on it if you really think you love someone write out what about them makes you happy, your likes and dislikes about them. See which list triumphs the other.
It's gotten so bad that that young ladies think they fall in love at early ages and is seeking to initially find comfort or love that they have missed out on during their childhood. I say this again to say most of your adult problems stem from you childhood history. All of that plays a MAJOR role in your adult life. A conditioning that takes time to be reversed and even explained. Daddy cheated on mommy, '"she loved" him so she made it work, realizing she was stupid for love, not knowing that she loved the lust and confused the stupidity for love.
Let me break it down.....
Love is inherently free. It cannot be bought, sold, or traded. You cannot make someone love you, nor can you prevent it, for any amount of money. Love cannot be imprisoned nor can it be legislated. Love is not a substance, not a commodity, nor even a marketable power source. Love has no territory, no borders, no quantifiable mass or energy output.
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