A relationship can be described best as an interaction and special bond between two people. Let's face it, every time we get into a relationship, we wonder if it's going to give us the warmth and happiness that we desire. An unhealthy relationship can effect our mental, physical and spiritual health. Some people may not understand or often deny the fact that they are involved in an unhealthy relationship. The 10 warning signs listed below will assist you in analyzing your own relationship and determine if it is unhealthy.
1. Lack of Communication: Without open and honest communication, a relationship cannot grow or move forward.
2. Distrust: Trust is an important factor in a relationship. If you discover that it is hard or impossible to trust your partner, you may want to re-evaluate the relationship.
3. Guilt: Certain situations or disagreements in a relationship can lead to guilt. Push and pull is normal in a relationship, but guilt should never define our character, lower our self esteem or make us feel inadequate.
4. Lack Of Intimacy: Sex should not be a sole indicator if you and your partner connect romantically. However, certain indicators such as stress and fatigue can heavily impact the relationship. Gestures such as a back rub, a kiss, a hug, or just a smile can be comforting. If sex becomes just a memory or how things "used to be" this can be unhealthy in a relationship.
5. Disrespect: A relationship should be built on a foundation of respect. Humiliation, embarrassment, manipulation and any type of physical, emotional or mental abuse is definitely considered unhealthy in a relationship and you should get out IMMEDIATELY!
6. Depression: Symptoms of depression can build as an unhealthy relationship spirals out of control. Breaking up does not have to be the only factor. Sacrificing certain aspects of your life and routine in order to please your partner will never work long-term. Continuous arguments and fights, and not fulfilling the needs of yourself first can also lead to depression. It is important to analyze the situation and pin point the source of the depression so you're able to develop a solution.
7. Co-Dependency: Sacrifice and compromise are totally necessary in a successful relationship but when you start to "need" your partner rather than "want them, this is a warning sign that the relationship is unhealthy. Being co-dependent prevents you from fulfilling your own needs and exercising your right to free will.
8. Separation of Self: In an unhealthy relationship we sometimes tend to take the focus off ourselves in order to save the relationship. Without loving ourselves first, it is impossible to love another and have a successful relationship.
9. Indifference: Indifference can be tricky, sometimes confused with impulsiveness. If you or your partner still care enough to get upset, this usually means you still care enough to make a point. If answers to questions consist of "Whatever", "Who Cares" or just no regard to your feelings, you're either not appreciated or taken for granted, not becoming a priority for your partner anymore. The balance of emotion begins to plummet.
10. Letting Go: As we get deeper into our relationship, we learn to become more comfortable with our mate. This helps us to relax and not always worry about "looking our best" on a consistent basis. In an unhealthy relationship, stress will cause us to "let go" of our health, appearance and views on life. This is a dangerous combination that should immediately be changed in order to regain balance and stability in our life.
Finding a partner that is compatible and meets your long term wants and needs is definitely difficult, but it should never come at the expense of losing ourselves and our own identity. Trust your instincts, know the signs and ask yourself: "Am I involved in an unhealthy relationship?"